4 What Its Worth

Many of us learn about relationships by trial and error.

I mean our parents give us little snippets. If we were fortunate to get that much advice. I'm fortunate to be a relationship expert who has learned from my parents, different people who I came in contact with, studying relationships, and being in different types of relationships.

Relationships that were draining, depressing, joyous, cool, hell bound, and even those which left me with a broken heart. There are four things that I learned about having a great relationship.

1. Know What You Want and Never Settle 4 Less
2. Only get Involved With a Person Who Enhances Your Life
3. Only get involved with a Dream Catcher and Not a Dream Dasher
4. Only Go Hard 4 The Person Who Loves You Back Equally

Know What You Want and never Settle 4 Less
You never settle for the next to best house or car and why should you when it comes to a mate. You deserve the best so never settle for less. God wants you to have the best.

I recall a time when I was single I linked up with a beautiful woman who most of the qualities that I wanted in a woman. However, I soon found out she had some qualities that I am completely turned off by. Before long I found myself unfulfilled in a relationship that disintegrated faster than a cracker in a boisterous ocean.

Settling for less will always be a waste of your valuable time.

Only Get Involved With a Person Who Enhances Your Life
I have a friend let's call him Rick. Rick has a girlfriend who he has been involved with for the past two years. This woman has children, can't hold a job for long and has a drama shadow. Meaning drama follows her anywhere that she goes.

Rick is a really good dude who treats her like a queen and her children like their his own. The problem is psychosomatic for Rick because he had to take care of his mom who was always sick as he was growing up. He is locked in that state of mind to take care of a woman the way he did with his mom.

This woman is not a person who can enhance Rick's life. Unfortunately he has always dated women whom he tries to rescue as though he is an EMS worker.

Never get involved with these types of people who cannot enhance your life. They will dash your self esteem to pieces and provide you with many setbacks in your relationship.

A person who enhances your life does the opposite. They pour life into you and your relationship.

Only Get involved With a Dream Catcher and Not a Dream Dasher
A dream catcher is a person who is supportive of your dreams. A dream dasher is the type of individual who does everything in their power to shatter your dreams and deter you from accomplishing them.

Only Go Hard 4 the Person Who Loves You Equally
In the game of love people get blinded by the love they have for an individual and become caught up in that. Just because you love someone deeply doesn't mean they love you the same way. Stop getting caught up on what you giving to see what your mate is giving. This is the real litmus test.

I have a cousin I wont mention his name but he's involved with a woman he deeply loves. He has been madly in love with her for years. However, his mate doesn't feel the say way for him. He goes hard for her but she doesn't go hard for him.

He gives 200% of himself when she doesn't even give a mere 50%. Now I'm no accountant or a mathematician but there is something greatly wrong with those figures.

If they don't go hard for you kick em to the curb boo? You can do bad all by yourself.

For what it's worth, you can save yourself a lot of time, pain, and heartache by implementing these 4 keys to having a great relationship.