The Power of What

Whenever you are faced with a dilemma that needs a solution, never ask yourself the “why questions.” These questions only bury you deeper in your dilemma. I am a man of questions.

When it comes to relationships why questions usually puts the other party on the defensive and can stir up a disagreement. The why questions have this effect upon people because it tends to questions a persons motives.

That is why I have found the power of what to be a very powerful tool to use in communication.

In case of an argument, disagreement, or dilemma break into one of these questions. They work like a charm. In fact, these questions make communication go a lot smoother.

What has to happen in order for you to be happy?

What steps can we take to prevent this from occurring again?

What caused me to act in this fashion is____________. What caused you to act in the fashion that you did?

What did you learn from this experience that empowers you to be a better communicator?

I suggest you come up with your own combinations. You will be surprised at how fast this can cool a heated discussion. You will also be surprised at how fast you will get the hang of coming up with them. Most of all you will become comfortable using them with your mate and in your daily communication with others.